So today when I got home from work I was upset so I cleaned. When my husband got home for some reason we were just off. I was upset for several things that happened throughout the day and who knows what was going on with him but mean things were said before he left for class. Sparing the details...... But I was trying hard to use the tools of my support group to look at the situation from the outside and detach a little. Then something unbelieveable happened. While cooking I heard my phone ringing, seeing that it was him I hit the ignore button. Then again and again and again. On the fifth call I was worried he might have been in a car wreck and honestly if he calls back that many times I should just answer. He apologized. Not just Im sorry kind of apology but the deep kind. He said that he was driving and thinking and realized that he was completely out of line. He knew that he was angry at something and it wasnt me but he just couldnt put his finger on it. And he knew that he had hurt me and said that he hoped it didnt ruiin the rest of my night and he hoped I was gonna let him come home.:-) haha ok so he has said sorry before but never like this. He realized that he was displacing his anger onto me and he made an attempt to ammend that. Its always been well im sorry but you did this or you did that or this is why i was angry i shouldnt have said those things. but this was different. it was huge. he finally realized that something was wrong and he used anger to get it out of him and took it out on me. then on his first break from class he called to apologize again. I am speachless. I am so happy that this step has happened. it may be the first and only time but for now i am content. at least he realized today that he had a problem. thank you.
goodnight and xoxox baby jacobs
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